Speech is also one of those things that can be a double-edged sword if wielded by someone in a unpleasant mood. We must remember that words can often hurt more than physical pain. The golden rule could come in handy for this also. "Treat others as you would want them to treat you" could also be stated as "Speak to others as you would want them to speak to you." If we look at the golden rule in this aspect it puts our words in a much more different perspective.
I have a horrid habit of being verbally mean when I'm in a bad mood or if I've reached my limit. This is not fair, nor respectful, to the person that I'm am directing the speach toward, nor is it fair or respectful to those that hear it or about it.
From Candace Simpson-Giles' book How to be a Lady, she offers the following suggestions:
"A lady never curses in front of others,"
"A lady does not nag,"
"A lady does not raise her voice when angry,"
and
"A lady always thinks before she speaks."
I mention these ones specifically as they are ones that I am most often finding myself at fault for. As I am also trying to raise a young lady and two boys into gentlemen, this is not the type of example I want to express for any of them.
I have also been working on my posture as it is much more common, and a lot easier for a person to slouch than for them to sit, or stand, upright. Oftentimes we have become so accustomed to slouching that beginning to sit and stand properly tends to cause a bit of soreness and pain in our back. However, I must encourage you to continue with it. One of the best ways to keep oneself in check is to always have your feet placed firmly on the ground with ones hands in her lap. For those of us that are a bit more petite than others, this sometimes means that we need to sit a bit closer to the edge of our seats. While it may be a little bothersome at first, I can assure you, it is well worth it. Doing this also helps us to work on our inner thigh muscles as a lady does not cross her legs nor sits like a man.
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